I’m feeling overwhelmed
Caregiving can be exhausting. Feeling frustrated or needing a break does not mean you do not care.
Check first
- Is your loved one safe right now?
- Have you eaten, had a drink, or rested?
- Are you tense, tearful, or close to losing your temper?
- Is there someone you can ask to help?
Try this
- 1Pause safely. If your loved one can safely be left briefly, step away for a moment. If they need supervision, ask someone to take over or pause beside them.
- 2Settle yourself. Relax your shoulders and take a few slow, comfortable breaths. Notice your feet on the floor. Focus on the next small step.
- 3Ask for specific help. Try: “Can you sit with Dad for half an hour?” or “Could you bring supper tomorrow?” Choose one task someone else could do.
Words to try
- To yourself: “I can pause before I respond.”
- To yourself: “I only need to manage the next small step.”
- To your loved one: “Let’s take a quiet moment.”
- To a helper: “I need a break. Can you take over for a little while?”
Emergency instruction
If anyone is in immediate danger, call 911.
Keep it safe
- If you feel close to shouting or handling your loved one roughly, pause the task, create safe space, and contact someone who can help immediately. Do not leave a person who needs supervision alone.
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When to seek help
- Speak with your healthcare provider or a caregiver support service if exhaustion, anxiety, low mood, or lack of sleep is becoming difficult to manage.
- Ask about respite and home-care support.
A gentle reminder
You deserve care too. Asking for help is part of caring for both of you.
General caregiving information; adapt it to your loved one’s needs and care plan.